Simple Equations For a Rockstar Libido

There's no right and wrong when it comes to frequency, but the important thing is matching your partner's libido. Whether you "have a headache" or dread hearing that your partner has one yet again, here are a few ways to spice things up. Let's get that desire humming with some simple equations for a rockstar libido.

Healthy hormones = healthy libido

Think of the endocrine system like an orchestra. The hormones are the instruments that must be working in harmony to create beautiful music, and the pancreas, thyroid, adrenals, pituitary, and ovaries or testes are the players of the instruments. The endocrine system is closely linked with our nervous system, our digestive system, and our reproductive system, so problems can spread rapidly from one system to the next. Thus stressors in any of those systems can whack your hormones out of balance and plummet your libido.

Thanks to the relationship between the digestive and endocrine systems, we can regulate hormones with a stellar diet. Hormones are made out of cholesterol, iodine, amino acids, and fatty acids so the best foods to eat are fats. Here are 5 foods with the essential fatty acids necessary to build healthy hormones and a rockin' sex drive.

5 sexy fats that = healthy hormones

1 Avocados

2 Coconut

3 Chia Seeds

4 Wild Caught Salmon

5 Raw Walnuts

Go ahead and test my list on your next date. Share a bag of potato chips and see if your partner wants your greasy hands all over them or let a coconut oil tasting turn into a coconut oil massage and see where that takes you.

Bad fats = low libido

Wheres eating sexy fats yields healthy hormones, eating bad fats can wreak havoc on the endocrine system. Vegetables oils such as canola, sunflower, safflower, corn, cottonseed, and peanut have over processed, damaged omega 6 fatty acids that create toxins, fat, and free radicals in the body. They also cause major imbalances in our omega 3 fatty acids which are crucial for un-inflammation, healthy hormones, and a bumpin' libido.

We are eating way too much omega 6 fatty acids with our love affair of fried foods, chips, cookies, and processed foods. Eating pasture raised animals, fatty fish, walnuts, and foods high in omega 3s can balance hormones and un-inflame the body. If you only make one change for your health this year, stop using cheap vegetable oils and change to safer oils such as coconut oil, olive oil, pastured lard, butter, and ghee.

Exercise = a sexy body

Getting a daily workout can do wonders for your libido. When you work out your body gets fit. You can't help yourself, the visual stimulation from seeing a human figure in shape naturally raises pleasure receptors in the brain and your natural instinct to procreate will spike that libido.

Exercise releases endorphins in the brain which reduces pain, reduces stress, and increases healthy hormone production. Though you may not be in the mood now, start moving towards your goal and see if the desire catches up in 20 minutes.

Finally, exercising outdoors will increase your exposure to the sun. Absorbing good old sunshine is the best way to increase your vitamin D levels which can improve depression, strengthen the immune system, and support the endocrine system. Never go to bed without at least fitting in a 20 minute walk outside with your partner and your sex life will take great strides.

Healthy sleep patterns = healthy sex drive

I know it seems like sleep is the answer to everything; that's because it is. If you're exhausted, why on earth would you want to put out? Seriously, adults need 8 hours of sleep per night. Those afternoon yawns are signs that you should set your bedtime a few hours earlier.

Don't be disappointed in yourself if you're walking to bed past 10p wondering why you're not in the mood. It turns out, hormonal patterns are often at their lowest after 9p and you'll probably feel more refreshed in the morning after a good night's sleep. For a really exciting treat, set your alarm 30 minutes earlier and surprise your partner. Studies show that people are often more productive at work when they get their "exercise" first thing in the morning.

Healthy diet = healthy hormones

If healthy hormones = healthy libido and healthy diet = healthy hormones than a healthy diet is the key to a rockstar libido. That means eating REAL food as fuel and cutting out the toxins that cause disease. Toxins disrupt hormonal balance, make you gain weight, cause fatigue, and tank your libido. The biggest toxins for low libido are synthetic hormones, soy, plastics from BPA, non stick cookware, household cleaners, and chemicals in cosmetics.

Synthetic hormones from birth control pills and hormone replacement therapy are often the go to for treatment, but they also increase the risk of osteoporosis, cancer, stroke, and infertility which is definitely not sexy. Soy is a hormone disruptor like BPA from plastics. Try using glass water bottles and stainless steel food containers instead.

Non stick cookware would be a luxury if it didn't leach toxic chemicals into the food. I prefer my sexy, strong, cast iron cookware. As for cleaners and cosmetics, look out for toxic chemicals such as parabens, propylene glycol, sodium lauryl sulfate and DEA which disrupt the delicate balance of your endocrine system.

An easy rule of thumb is this: if it's not edible, it doesn't belong on your skin. You can clean almost anything in your house with baking soda, vinegar, and essential oils.  Finally with cosmetics look for food grade products like coconut oil, cocoa butter, and olive oil.

It's a complicated system of checks and balances but the brief synopsis is this. BPA's, synthetic hormones, soy, and other hormone disruptors act as estrogen in the body. When your body sees an abundance of estrogen it stops production and it may use the false form to try and make hormones. This is like building a house out of broken bricks,

So if you feel like a bag o' broken bricks next time you hear a sexy tune, think about it. Which of these factors tanked your libido? Was it a grande soy latte and chips for lunch? Did you skimp on sleep, or have you been holding the couch down instead of enjoying the great outdoors?

Don't give up! Once you feed a healthy libido, there's a positive feedback loop... Desire feeds desire.